Is it time to move on?

I feel for a Moom. Damn you Poop (aaahhh... my heart goes pitty pat)!!

Have you ever pause and think deeply of how fast men can move on after a breakup? Or is it because they moved on long before the woman let go that makes it looks easier for them? I am contemplating…. was at the deck counting stars with Leodi while Mich fishing and singing…(for me….huhuhuh). In between the stars I saw a picture of a broken hearted Moom, and a trio playing at the beach namely Mr Potato, PrincessLaila and her kids???? Yes on the beach!!  You are a bitch PL??  Huh!!.

Women, being the emotional creatures, we tend to hold on things longer than we should. I ask myself.. Is this a weakness? or a  strength?

 

It could be both. I think. Due to being the strength, marriages and relationships last longer, usually til death do us part. Don't you believe me? Try asking any wives how many silent tears they shed alone over the years.

 

If it is to be a weakness, that makes us humans.

It is sad when men will move almost instantly as if nothing had happened while the women are left to pick up the pieces and desperately patching them up. (I am thinking of humpty dumpty sitting on a wall….) There is never an answer to the question 'why' when it is directed to them…. Men!!  ( usually it will be….why are you doing this to me?)

 

Oh….ouch!  this is a generic post. It does not refer to anyone, or anything. I was just... reflecting. And thinking of…..( yo shit!).

If you see a woman, who is able to move on as if nothing is affecting her, she is only pretending. She might look strong on the outside, but she's actually fragile inside. It is a defensive mechanism. People around might think she is happy because she looks happy, smiling and laughing, but no one really know how strong the storm is brewing inside her. Appearing to be strong is the only way for them (women) to hide the hurt they felt inside wanting not to get hurt again and again.

Do you think I am bias? Yes of course I am, I am a woman. And I admit, I'm an emotional creature and I'm happy being one emotional woman creature and not hating or feeling sorry for myself of being one. It is me and that is who I am. And it's what makes me truly a woman.

So, Moom, fret no more. We could be sad and as time heals, we will move on.

I am just a sucker for fairytales and happy endings and if magic does happen in real life, then, there is no life.

Is it time to move on?

 

Violets are blue so is the sky....

Life as nature sets in, is interesting. You meet new people, get along beautifully with them, observe them, write about those beautiful and not so beautiful characters you see in them and at the same token you get the advantage to read and understand their thoughts too. Along the way you re-acquainted with old friends.

Life by all means is very, very exciting and awesome too.

The sky is the bluest at the horizon these past couple of days. Sure there are some grey clouds floating around, fair weather cumulus and cumulonimbus but I love cirrus when it’s at the bluest. Somehow, with it being so blue, the rest of the world becomes more beautiful but if you are on land, the trees and grasses will look greener, hills look prettier than ever.

In life when we choose to see all the beauty, we will focus on the good things instead of the bad (grey dark clouds). There are a lot more good friends than bad, more beautiful memories than sad, easier ways to do things and the list goes on and on. Ultimately it’s our choice good or bad and a bad choice (no choice) in life will do us more harm than good, will consume and suffocate us along the way.

I’ve been really busy with work lately to catch up with old friends, good friends, new friends, treasured friends(Fb&T)….bad ones too. If I continue down this road, I guess I will end up losing most of them. (I don’t mind losing the bad ones though). 

I am so lucky so blessed with friends who understand my far afield life, and when we do catch up, it’s as if there were no hiatus in between. And again, it is my choice, to make the time and effort, compose an email, a line or two no matter where I am for them. Sure, we cannot get together as often as we like, but we must continue to connect. In any way we can.

Each time when I look through the internet, I see people connecting every day, every single moment (Since I am separated from the more sophisticated and civilized world by ocean a part the only way to see the other side is through the internet). Some are connected to each other with honest intentions and I guess some are not. Some genuinely like the people they are connecting and some do it because they have to do it. And that is life.

We are souls that thirst for connection, for involvement..... for relationship. That is the reason some of us are in temporary relationship, or trapped in a bad relationship, because any connection is better than none. No one is a detached soul. The thing that differs one from the others, are the intentions and ultimate goal. What do you want from the connection or involvement in a  relationship? Friendship?

Although life is not always fair, and relationship is not always smooth, choose to look at the bright side of things. That life is not always unfair and relationship is not always rocky and friendship does turn sour. Aim for balance. 

The sky is never always grey, and it was the brightest blue yesterday…(I wonder what it would be today)

I love my life…..Alhamdulillah. Goodnite peeps.

I love you….