DAY 19 - YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE, DO YOU?

And fine....... (Ini soal jodoh)

I'm not going to throw accusations or be judgmental against anyone But, what I'm going to write is just how I feel about situations when there's a third party in a relationship.

We can't deny that all marriages would have its ups and downs. More often a marriage would start being on the rock when there's a third party involved otherwise they will try their utmost best to deal with the situation and resolve the crisis especially when there are kids effected . They would be more focused on addressing issues which caused the rift if there's no third party to distract the wife/husband attention. So, both would, Insya Allah, try their best to save the marriage.

But, when there's a third party in the equation, the third party will seem to be offering a better deal than the spouse and it would be a good excuse for the husband/wife to call it quits, because he/she would be thinking, "If this marriage were to end, there is someone waiting to start a new life with. The divorce won't be that painful. Life would just continue as it is with a different person". And because of that the sanctity of the marriage institution would just dissipate into thin air. 

 Yes, the divorce won't be painful for you, but what about your spouse who had been through thick and thin with you, and your kids?

And I feel all of these could be avoided if both husband and wife are loyal and sincere to each other. This is ESPECIALLY important when they know or they feel that there are girls/guys out there who are trying to hit on them.

(Jangan gatal nak layan or nak try test you masih laku atau tidak dalam market. Ini jadi penyebab why husbands and wives start to go astray macam excited giler bile tau dia masih attractive or desirable pada orang lain).

I believe that if you know or if you feel a girl/guy is trying to make a move on you, you should tell it straight to his or her face that you're married. You don't owe him/her anything. But, you do owe your spouse your loyalty. 

BUT, MORE IMPORTANTLY, YOU SHOULD SHARE THIS WITH YOUR SPOUSE. You should tell your spouse about the particular girl/guy, and you should always update your spouse on whatever attempts the guy/girl is making to get you. Don't wait.

(jangan nak syok sendiri dan rasa gatal macam monyet bila ade orang tunjuk interests in you. Imaan kena teguh). 

Once your spouse is aware of your pursuer, this will ensure that you stay anchored to the marriage and your spouse who before took you for granted, will also start paying more attention to you because you are becoming a prized possession. There is  a competitor in pursue.........

 And you  don't want to lose, do you?