Huhuhuhu.......

Malay men don’t  know what romance is....izzit?  But then again, what does a Malay woman expect when she wants romance?. Candlelit dinner for two at home, perhaps? Dining out, at a nice, expensive hotel....by the pool? A box of chocolate hearts with a card attached  or maybe a bouquet of yellow 

roses with almond cookies tied to it. Or canoodling in a 5 star hotel or moonlit by the beach......

What actually romance  is for most of us, basically, a Malay woman, like me, the  perempuan Melayu terakhir.....hehehehe. Frankly, the candlelit dinner is not cut out for me if without a wonderful conversation and some other intangibles. I just don’t go for things  so often used on TV to ‘describe’ romantic - ‘commercial romantic’- and  that’s  NOT in our culture.

What is true Malay Romance (MR)?

If the people in the kampung want to be romantic, what is the first thing that cross their minds? Everything is so commercialised and westernised nowadays......  my ignorance I blamed for not trying 

to read up more on Malay cultures - but I would really like to find out the real romance for Malays.

Is there no such thing as MR ?........

I can’t think of much romantic stuff that could be construed as totally Malay ....anyone???  Probably because when I read, I can clearly see the people in the books  –  is always so very clear to me that they are all mat saleh, NOT Malay. I am an avid romance reader.... but I could never imagine myself doing the romantic stuff they do in the books........

.........................................to me, romance, if anything, must come from the heart.

Like a special dinner cooked just for me  when he doesn’t really know how to cook but he tries because he wants me to know how much he loves me and how ‘special’ I am....to him

That  would make me feel romanced...dun u think so???

My conclusion is...

Tell him and teach him how to be romantic in your perception. Which is more practicle since most Malay man don’t romance....